The Dream Girl Trap
Jun 02, 2025
The Dream Girl Trap
by Catherine Josephine | The Love Priestess™
You were everything he said he wanted.
Soft.
Supportive.
Magnetic.
Beautiful.
Available.
He pursued you with intensity.
He told you that you were different.
He called you his dream girl.
And then…
he disappeared.
No explanation.
No closure.
Just a slow fade or a sudden silence.
An "Irish Exit."
And you were left wondering:
How do you go from being the fantasy to the one he had to sneak away from?
The Answer Is Painful, But the Feminine Truth Will Set You Free.
Some men don’t want a dream girl.
They want the chase.
They want the high of pursuit not the responsibility of intimacy.
They want to win, not to keep.
It's like fishing for them.
Wait all day to catch a little fishy just to throw it back in the water.
Maybe that is why there are fishing photos on men's dating profiles...a subliminal clue for you.
To them, your magic is thrilling until it becomes real.
And once the pedestal no longer protects them from emotional intimacy, they fall back into their own fear.
You weren’t too available.
You were too real.
At first they might have told you they liked how authentic you are, but in reality they preferred the fantasy.
That is why I remind myself and tell my clients, "Don't listen to the words. Pay attention to his actions."
Men aren't stupid. They know what bait to use to catch which fish. They've learned they can reel us in with words.
WHY DID YOU GO FROM DREAM GIRL TO THREAT?
Here’s what I’ve heard directly from men:
💔 “If she gives herself to me too easily, I question if she gives herself to everyone.”
💔 “If she’s too into me too soon, I don’t feel like I earned her.”
💔 “If it feels too good, I assume something must be wrong.”
💔 “If she doesn’t put up a fight, I lose interest.”
This isn’t love.
This is ego.
This is wounding.
This is the disease of emotional immaturity disguised as preference.
This is not your fault, but I know how easy it is to internalize the rejection.
You think:
Maybe I should’ve been harder to get.
Maybe I came on too strong.
Maybe if I hadn’t said "I love you" first, he’d still be here.
But don’t confuse his fear of commitment with your lack of value.
You didn’t do anything wrong.
No one can love you any more than they can love themselves.
You’re Not Here To Be A Dream. You are a real, raw woman.
You’re here to be held.
Fully.
Clearly.
Consistently.
Not placed on a pedestal and idealized.
Not romanticized and then abandoned.
Not loved only when you’re slightly out of reach.
The right man won’t treat you like a fantasy.
He’ll treat you like a woman.
Because he won’t want to imagine you.
He’ll want to build with you.
If you’re done with pedestal love, if you’re tired of being worshipped only to be discarded, I can help you attract the kind of soulmate level love your heart craves.
Let’s talk about how to be seen and chosen, not just desired from afar.
You are the woman a real man dreams of marrying because he can't imagine his life without you.
If you’re done with pedestal love and tired of being worshipped then abandoned,
Your Path To Soulmate Love Begins Here
to attract soul-aligned, emotionally available love.
With devotion,
xoxo love, Catherine
The Love Priestess
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